We’ve all been there. Every once in a while, no matter how much planning or effort goes into a project, sometimes it just doesn’t work out. It might not be a project either, maybe a book you’re reading, show you’re watching. Whatever. Sometimes things don’t turn out the way you want them to.
I used to be in team “Power Through”. Don’t love this book? You’re already this far, keep going. Don’t love the knitting project? I’m already on the second colour, if I stop then I will be wasting the stitches.
But you know what? You know it, you hear it all the time. LIFE. IS. TOO. SHORT.
Not loving this book? Stop reading it. Keep it on a list somewhere, maybe you’ll come back to it another time when you’re feeling it. Maybe you won’t, and that’s ok. Not loving how the colours are coming together? Pull it out. That yarn will be perfect for something that you will actually look forward to knitting and ultimately wearing. If you’re not going to wear it ever, what’s the point?
Now this advice is not to be confused with my 10 More Minutes post. Some things just need a little extra time. But use both of these to help yourself out. If I find I am not feeling a book, I am giving it one more chapter. No spark? No excitement? Still don’t know what is happening? It is not your time book. It is not your time. Do I feel like I HAVE to work on a certain project? Or SHOULD work on it instead of the one I have been thinking about spending time with all day? Maybe it’s time for a time out. The minute I think “Ugh, I have an episode of “fill in the blank” to watch” I know that it’s probably time to trim the list a bit.
Some projects, books, shows, have been saved with my “last chance” approach. But realizing that I am not enjoying something and releasing myself from having to power through is completely freeing. Sometimes the symbol of removing that pressure is enough to let me settle in and enjoy that thing again.
I understand the struggle. I feel like I am wasting time by not completing something. I have put so much effort in so far, now I won’t finish? That’s ok. Especially if you are able to take something from the experience. Maybe you learned that reading a fantasy book book right after a sci-fi one doesn’t work for you. Maybe when work is insane, you need something a little lighter. Maybe you learn that the colours you chose really don’t lend to lace, or that you would choose a different kind of needle for that project next time. See? You learned something, no wasted time.
And even if you don’t learn something. Life is still too short. If you force yourself to read the last 3/4 of that book so you can say it’s done, how long will that take? I know it takes me a lot longer to finish anything I am not interested in. In that time you could have read one or two books that you actually enjoyed. In most cases, these are hobbies, things that we do to balance out all the “have to”‘s in life, why would you spend that time hating it all?
Don’t think of it as giving up, you are just changing direction. Maybe that Cricut project isn’t what you want to work on now (Mom, I am looking at you), but maybe if you do a different one for a while you will have the inspiration and more knowledge to come back to that first project later. I just pulled out a couple projects last night. It was sad to see all of the work undone, but looking at the yarn afterwards, there is so much more exciting potential! A little switch can really change the perspective.
I say, spend that time with something that you are excited about, can’t wait to get back to or experience. Do the things that make you happy.
Every scenario has a “yes, but” I know. Let’s just look at this for what it is though. This is your sign that you don’t HAVE to finish that book, that project sitting in the corner wants to be a shawl instead, and anything else you just want to put on timeout, put on timeout. Set yourself free! There’s so little we have control over. Take control of this!